If you are here, reading this page right now, you probably are battling something or are preparing yourself to face it. Rejection, in all its connotations, is not a pleasant experience. And it is not supposed to be that as well.
It must put you in an uncomfortable position, pushing you out of your cozy and cushiony comfort zone. Only then you will be able to experience the lesson it offers.
It can be emotionally and in some cases, even physically taxing. The researches show that the pain it inflicts bears a strong resemblance to physical pain. However, that is not it. The evidence also shows that the emotional burden it gives, with making you feel anxious, lonely, and alone, can ever lower your IQ!
Then the most important question comes – how do I deal with it? How do I minimize the damage? How to stop it from taking a toll on you, your surroundings, and most importantly the people who care about you? We feel you and we are here to guide you through. Today we discuss 10 ways to deal with rejection and turn this emotional blow to a power slam!
We conducted research and shared our analysis on how to face rejections with a positive attitude.
Wondering how to deal with Rejections? Here’s how:
- Don’t reject yourself:
Self-love is the key. If you have come at the face with a situation that was not so ideal and has put you in an uncomfortable position, you should accept yourself and allow yourself to feel. You are strong. This is easy for you. There is nothing you cannot do!
Give yourself the pep-talk. Hug yourself like a close friend provides the warmth when they see their close aide suffering. You must give yourself the acceptance that you are craving and expecting form others first. One harsh instance does not define your worth.
- Deal with it head-on!
Pretending that you are happy, unaffected and chill in a room full of people is quite easy. You can totally do it. But how to handle it when it comes to you yourself?
The best way to handle rejection is to deal with it heads on. Instead of brushing your emotions under the mat and pretending that nothing is wrong – allow yourself to feel. Acknowledge what is going inside your head. Address the thoughts and dig out why you are feeling that way! Only then you would be able to address the underlying root cause of the problem.
- Don’t forget to be thankful:
Gratitude is a beautiful aspect of rejection. When you experience a situation where you cannot have what you want, don’t forget to be thankful for what you have.
If you cannot have that one person, do not forget to show gratitude for the people you have. When you feel unloved, don’t forget to be thankful for those relations who give you the warmth of acceptance. If you feel rejected on a job, think about those who dream to have a life like you. Count your blessings and recognize your privilege. After all, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
- Rejection is not a reflection of you – tell yourself:
When we face rejection, we often end up asking the harsh questions:
Am I not good enough? Do I lack something? Do I not deserve the good things in life?
Well, here is the most sensitive point. You need to reassure and tell yourself that reaction does not mean that there is something wrong with YOU. In fact, there are more things that go into it. It can be a simple lack of compatibility, the difference in preferences and endless other possibilities. It does not define you or is, in any remotest way, a reflection of you.
- Find peace in those who love you:
One mistake that we often make when we are hurting is we end up pushing away the people we love. When we are going through that phase, rather than sharing and speaking about it with those who care, we end up socially cutting ourselves off, adding to our misery.
Your loved ones, family, friends, accomplices…all of them care about you. They are there for you. Spend quality time with them and allow them to look after you. It is a very cozy, pampered feeling that most of us crave for.
- Connect with people who have faced it:
You are not alone. Almost every one of us has faced it at some point in life. When you face off with rejection, you often end up thinking that there must be something wrong with you and hence you couldn’t get it.
So connecting with people who have faced it and are in the same boat as you will help you recognize that it is a normal part of life. Muster the courage and reach out to those people. Talking it out surely eases the pain.
- Learn and recognize:
If rejection has come to you in a way that has no possible fixtures – for example if it comes from a girl you wanted to date, the most dignified way to handle it is to respect. Tell yourself that she, being a human, has every right to her life.
But if it comes at an event that could have yielded some other results – for example it is a job and you know what aspect could have been improved to avoid it…take the opportunity. Learn, recognize and educate yourself about the lacking. Work on them. Come back stronger!
- Treat yourself:
What is your coping mechanism? It is candy, shopping, splurging? Then go for it! Don’t feel guilty in spoiling yourself and doing anything that makes you happy.
Rather than going hard on yourself, take this opportunity to connect with yourself. Practice some self-love. Go for dinner all by yourself to have your favorite food.
Go shop, have a massage and do anything and everything to make yourself feel a little pampered. Why? Because you deserve it. You deserve to be treated with compassion and it all starts with your own self.
- Proceed for a feedback:
This is a very effective and productive way to handle it. If you have been rejected by a potential partner, always get back to them and talk it out gracefully. Speak to them and listen to their reasons for it. It would help you see that it has less to do with you and more to do with them.
Similarly, if you have faced rejection at job/work, get some feedback and dig out the reasons. It would educate you about your shortcomings and you can know where to work exactly. A blessing in disguise, isn’t it?
Last but not the least, the best way to deal with rejection is by refocusing your emotions. Turn them into positive energy. Do the things you love. Improve the aspects that make you insecure.
You are the boss of your own life ultimately. It is you who is going to set the direction of your energy. You can either let all the negative thoughts drain you or you can change that rage into a fresh breeze of productive energy. The choice is totally yours to make! And we really hope you choose the later!
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