You’re at the gym. You’re trying to get fit, or maybe you just like being around other people trying to get fit.
Whatever your reason for being at the gym, you might have a crush on someone there. This can be a fun, exciting feeling. But it can also be pretty stressful. So, the question in your mind will be, what should I do if I have a crush on a guy at the gym?
There are many things you can do to handle such a situation. But first and foremost, try not to be too creepy or forward when you see the guy. Try as much as possible to behave yourself. Feelings can drive you crazy but try to be under control. Here are some of the things you can do if you have a crush on a guy at the gym.
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9 Things You Can Do if You Have Crush at the Gym
1. Be friendly and comport yourself
Be friendly but don’t be too friendly and not too shy. Also, don’t be too forward, aggressive or aloof either. If you go overboard with any of these things, you risk alienating the guy and coming off as a tease or flirt, and those are not good terms to have associated with someone trying to attract a guy.
2. Position yourself for opportunity
If you’re interested in meeting a guy at the gym, you’ll have to get into a position he is also likely to be in. So if he works out at 4:00 PM on Tuesdays and Fridays, those are your best days. But if you can’t make it during those hours, try going early or later on Wednesdays. If someone is already there and they leave quickly, he may be more likely to come later than usual.
If this doesn’t work out for whatever reason, try going on different days or times altogether until you find one where he shows up regularly. Then just see what happens from there.
3. Ask for his help
If you’re feeling insecure about your workout, ask him for help. If you’ve never lifted weights before or don’t know how to use a certain machine, ask him for some pointers. He’ll be flattered that he can help someone as beautiful as you with their workouts and training regimen. It’s also a great way to get to know each other better without being too forward about it. If nothing else, we’re sure he’ll appreciate the opportunity to show off his knowledge.
4. Be Approachable
If you’re attracted to him, it can be hard not to show it. The best thing you can do is be friendly with everyone and make an effort to be approachable. If he wants to talk to you, that’s great. But if he doesn’t? No problem. Be friendly with everyone else at the gym until he makes his move.
5. Don’t wear overly revealing clothing
If you want to attract a guy at the gym, it’s important that you wear clothing that is both comfortable and modest. Wearing too tight clothes could make you uncomfortable and cause your mind to wander during your workout. Wearing too revealing clothes will attract attention from other people in the gym (and not the good kind).
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6. Do wear attractive clothing
There’s no reason to be self-conscious about what you’re wearing in the gym. You should wear appropriate clothing for the occasion and your current activity level. If it’s truly hot out, it’s okay to switch into a T-shirt instead of a tank top but if it’s not hot enough for shorts and there are many layers of clothing between you and full nudity, leave them on.
- Wear clothes that fit well. It can be tempting to buy cheap workout gear from discount stores, but this can lead to problems down the road: When sweat wicks away from your body through the poorly ventilated fabric (or when loose threads get caught in machinery), those items may not last as long as they otherwise would have.
- Wear flattering clothes. A sports bra will never be as comfortable under normal circumstances as an oversized cotton shirt that hangs loosely around your torso would be. But if you want people who aren’t yourself to find you attractive at the gym, then having form-fitting or stretchy garments like these will help tremendously.
7. Comment on his workout
When it comes to talking to other gym-goers, be positive and supportive. Never, under any circumstances, suggest that someone’s workout is not “good enough.” Instead, comment on his form: “Your squat looks great.” or “Your deadlift was impressive.” He will probably feel flattered by your kind comment and may even ask you how you got into working out in the first place. You can then direct him toward our guide on getting fit without breaking.
If someone seems like they’d appreciate some encouragement but isn’t interested in talking to strangers (or if they’re too busy with their headphones), ask them about their routine: “What are some of your favorite exercises?” They’ll probably either tell you some truth bombs or give you an awkward smile and walk away. Either way, it works out for both parties involved.
8. Wear bright color gym outfits
Try to wear bright color gym outfits. You want to draw attention to yourself because that’s the whole point of this exercise to make this guy notice you.
If he notices, it’s time for the second step: wear gym clothes that are flattering to your body type. If you’re short and chubby, there’s no sense in trying to fit into a tight pair of leggings when they’re just going to make your legs look shorter than they already are. Choose something more comfortable instead, like sweatpants or track pants.
If he still doesn’t notice. Well then, maybe he wasn’t meant for you after all. Just keep doing what makes you feel confident and happy at the gym (and don’t let him get under your skin).
9. Make eye contact and smile
You’re putting yourself out there when you make eye contact with a guy at the gym. It’s a great way to get his attention and build rapport, and even if this guy doesn’t notice you, he’s probably seen enough people in his life that he’ll smile back anyway.
A smile is infectious. The more positive experiences we have interacting with other people, the more confident we become in interacting with new people.
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Should I Hit on a Guy at the Gym?
Yes, you can hit on a guy at the gym. There are plenty of ways to do it, but you need to be subtle and casual. If you have a crush on someone and want them to know, don’t make it obvious that it’s just because he’s hot. Try being friendly and making eye contact with him during his workout. He knows that you noticed him positively instead of thinking about how good-looking he is.
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How to Impress Him
It’s common to feel nervous around someone you’re attracted to, especially if it’s a guy at the gym. But there are several things you can do to boost your confidence and make sure he notices you.
1. Be comfortable with yourself
If you’re active and fit, then great. That shows you take pride in your appearance and that he should take a second look at you. Don’t worry. Our bodies change over time as we get older, so focus on other things about you (like being nice or funny).
2. Be confident in who you are
Don’t pretend to be someone else just because they like what they see when they look at us; instead, show them the real person behind them by speaking up when a conversation stalls out. It’ll give both of them an opportunity for good old-fashioned bonding time. Don’t let shyness hold you back from getting closer: remember that it takes two people working together towards something greater than themselves.
Final Thought
Just as a word of caution, it’s important to remember that you don’t always have to act on your feelings when they come up. If you’re unsure whether this crush is mutual, it’s probably best to let things lie and stay friends with him at the gym. Even if he says something like, “I have a crush too.” don’t assume that he means what you think he means.
If this guy is single, give him your number or ask if he wants to hang out outside the gym (if possible). If not, then there’s nothing wrong with keeping things strictly platonic. Just make sure it stays fun for both of you.
