It’s a hard pill to swallow when you find out your boyfriend is cheating. You’ve been there for him every step of the way, and now he’s straying from your side.
The good news is that you’re not alone in this situation. Millions of people have been in it before you and they’ve made it out okay.
Here are some tips on how to deal with your lying cheating boyfriend:
- Get your body rocking
- Cut him off completely
- Become friends with girls he cheated you on
- Gain family support
- Give him a silent treatment
Now, let’s go into details
Proven Tips on How to Deal With a Lying Cheating Boyfriend
1. Get your body rocking
It may sound cliche, but you really need to take care of yourself. You can start by working out and changing up your wardrobe, getting a new haircut, or even finding a new job.
After that, it’s about finding ways to distract yourself from the cheating boyfriend. Join some clubs or organizations in your town. The more social you are, the more likely you are to meet people who share common interests with you (and who won’t cheat on their girlfriends).
If there’s no opportunity for that in your current town, then consider taking up a new hobby. Anything from knitting to cooking classes will help keep your mind off things. You could also try learning how to play an instrument or taking dance lessons.
These hobbies will help keep your brain sharp while providing something fun for both of us. In the end, he will be pained he did what he did. He has lost a precious gem.
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2. Cut him off completely
If your boyfriend is a serial cheater, you have to cut him off completely. Don’t give him another chance. Don’t let him back in your life or back in your bed. And if he tries to talk about how much he loves and misses you, don’t let him get away with it. Tell him exactly what you think of his behavior and why it’s not acceptable for someone who loves you (or at least claims to).
3. Become friends with the girl(s) he cheated with
The best way to deal with a cheating boyfriend is to be friends with the girls he cheated on you with. If the girl is still talking to your boyfriend, try being friendly and polite. Don’t talk about him behind his back, don’t gossip about him or his cheating, and don’t get angry at her for dating your ex-boyfriend.
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5. Gain family support
Family is important in a time like this. You might not feel like they’re there for you, but they can be your best support system when you need someone to talk to. If the family doesn’t seem trustworthy or helpful at first due to the nature of your relationship with them, try opening up about what’s happened with a close friend instead.
6. Give him the silent treatment
Let me be clear: this isn’t about being vengeful or petty or trying to make him feel bad for what he’s done. It’s about making a point, and if it happens to make him uncomfortable along the way, so much the better.
The thing is that you don’t talk to him at all anymore. Don’t answer his calls, don’t reply to his texts, don’t respond to his emails. Basically don’t even acknowledge that he exists in any way.
If that sounds harsh or unfair (because yes, it is), try thinking of it this way. If someone cheated on their significant other and then lied about it, who would they instead have listened to? Their significant other who was going through hell because of their deception, or some stranger who had nothing invested in them whatsoever?
5 Things Not to Do if You Want to Deal With Cheating Lying, Boyfriend
You’re not the only one who has been hurt by a cheating boyfriend. If you want to deal with this, take some time for yourself and your feelings. It’s okay if you can’t talk about it right away.
It’s okay if it takes longer than usual for things like healing and getting over being cheated on (if that’s what happened). The important thing is that in time, whether it takes three days or three years, things will start feeling better again. But you should not do the following if you want to deal with cheating lying boyfriend:
1. Don’t waste time trying to get even
You’re probably thinking, “But if I just call him out on his lies and he tells me the truth then everything will be fine.” Well, no it won’t. If you do this with your boyfriend or any other person for that matter, it makes them feel like they can lie whenever they want without any consequences.
They’ll come up with stories about why they left early from work or were seen by two different people when really there was only one person present (and maybe even no one at all).
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You’ll end up feeling hurt and angry because now you have to deal with their lies instead of hearing the truth from them directly, and then when things start getting bad again (which will probably happen sooner rather than later), you’ll let them off the hook again because guilt trips won’t work for long against someone who doesn’t care about what happens next anyway.
2. Don’t try to get back to him
You should also remember that you can’t get back at your boyfriend. This is a skill they’ve developed and they will use it against you. You may want to go through with the breakup, but don’t try to get back at him or any of his new girlfriends (or ex-girlfriends).
It’s also important not to try and get back at him by going after his friends, family members, or anyone else who has been hurt by his actions. That would just make things worse for everyone involved.
3. Don’t bear other people’s guilt
When your boyfriend cheats on you, it can feel like all the things that were wrong with him are suddenly your fault. You may feel guilty for their actions and feelings, or even for not feeling guilty about feeling guilty.
Some people believe that if they don’t express their feelings and act out of character, they’ll be able to avoid those feelings altogether. But this isn’t how our brains work. We aren’t robots who respond only in predictable ways when faced with certain situations or experiences.
If you’re constantly holding back from expressing yourself because of what other people think of you. If every time something bad happens in your life, you try to hide behind an impenetrable wall of silence, you won’t find happiness any time soon.
4. Don’t let a bad wound fester
Do you know that old saying about fools and their money? Well, there’s also a corollary for women and their tears: “Women cry over every little thing.” This is true. When we’re upset, our tear ducts spring into action like a leaky faucet in the bathroom sink.
It’s just how we’re built (the hormones) and it’s not something that can be controlled. No matter what you might have heard from your friend with chronically dry eyes. The best thing to do when you’re feeling sad is to let yourself cry for however long and however often it takes until you don’t feel sad anymore, but then move on with your life.
5. Do not see less of yourself
Do not allow yourself to see less of yourself or feel like you are crazy for seeing what you see. If he is cheating, then there must be something wrong with him. It is important for you to stand up for yourself and show that he can’t hurt anyone else by hurting himself more than anyone else will ever be able to do.
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3 Ways to Recover From Being Cheated, Lied to, or Manipulated
1. Forgive yourself for being fooled
The first thing you need to do is forgive yourself for being fooled. Don’t blame yourself for not seeing the signs or trusting someone who lied to you. You are not alone in this, and there’s no reason why your experience should define who you are as a person.
You’ve been through a lot, but don’t let it break you down or make you feel like there’s nothing left of value inside of yourself. There is so much more than this one incident that defines who we are as people.#, and if anything, going through such an ordeal can help us grow into better versions of ourselves.
2. Don’t give a known liar the benefit of the doubt
Don’t give a known liar the benefit of the doubt. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to believe everything he says. A liar will tell you what they think you want to hear, and if that means telling you something that isn’t true, then they’ll do it.
You can often see through their lies by paying attention to their facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language while they speak. If they appear nervous or guilty when talking with you about something, take note and ask them more questions if necessary.
3. Learn the basics of deception detection
Learning to spot the signs of deception is an important first step. Start by observing your own emotions, as well as those around you. When someone lies, it can affect not just their words but also their body language and voice tone. If you’re suspicious that a person is lying, watch closely for these 5 behaviors:
- They avoid eye contact
- They use fewer details than usual when talking about an event or a story
- They may suddenly become more animated than usual when telling their story. This could be an attempt to distract you from noticing inconsistencies between their words and actions
- Their speech may become more hurried or stilted if they know there’s something about what they’re saying that doesn’t add up (this isn’t always true; sometimes people just rush through things because they’re nervous or excited).
- When pretending something happened in the past, they omit key details that only someone who’d been present would know (like “We all went out for dinner together,” instead of “We went to Pizzeria X.”)
Conclusion
You need to be careful when dealing with a lying cheating boyfriend because they can be dangerous. I know this sounds like a really scary thing, but it is true. If you are in a relationship with someone who lies and cheats on you then they will not think twice about hurting or even killing you if it means saving their own skin.
A person who lies regularly has no respect for anyone around them and does not care about the consequences of their actions. This is because they already know what happens if caught; nothing at all. Remember that when dealing with someone like this you need to keep your distance from them at all times so as not to get sucked into their drama. It might seem hard at first but trust me it gets easier after a while and eventually becomes second nature
