Sometimes, it’s not as easy to figure out what a man is saying as it seems. Men can be complicated creatures, after all, and sometimes we need some help decoding their intentions and figuring out how they feel about us. One question I get asked very often is, what does it mean when a man says, ‘be patient with me’?
A man who says, “be patient with me,” is saying he needs some time to get used to you. He’s probably a little nervous or unsure of himself. He wants to make sure you know he cares about you and wants to do right by you, but he may need a little time before he can fully commit.
If a guy says, “be patient with me,” it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you or that he isn’t interested. It just means that he needs time to be sure of his feelings before moving forward with the relationship.
He might need some time to get used to you. He’s probably a little nervous or unsure of himself. He wants to make sure you know he cares about you and wants to do right by you, but he may need a little time before he can fully commit.
Also, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you or that he isn’t interested. It just means that he needs time to be sure of his feelings before moving forward with the relationship.
Should You Be Patient in a Relationship?
A relationship is not a sprint. It’s a marathon. It takes time to get to know someone and understand their needs and wants. Patience is often seen as one of the virtues that women need to possess in order to make their relationships work. But is it really? Is it a virtue or just an excuse for laziness?
Being patient in relationships means giving your partner enough time to learn about you and vice versa. You will wait for them to realize their mistakes and apologize for those mistakes. You will also wait for them to decide about anything that concerns both of you, whether it be about marriage, divorce, or anything else.
How Long Should You Be Patient With a Guy?
The question of how long you should wait for a guy is one that women are often faced with. And while there isn’t a hard and fast rule, there are some things you can do to determine if he’s worth it.
If he has said that he wants to spend more time with you, give him the benefit of the doubt and try not to assume that he’s not interested in being serious with you. If he seems like he really likes you and wants to get serious but hasn’t made any moves yet, give him some time to work up his courage before jumping ship altogether.
When deciding how long is too long to wait around for a guy, timing is everything. If it’s been months or even years since you’ve seen this guy and not much has happened between the two of you besides occasional phone calls or text messages here and there, then chances are good that he has moved on from his feelings for you.
Is it worth it? That depends on what’s most important to you. If your partner is the person that makes you happy and keeps your life balanced, then it’s worth putting up with some of their less desirable characteristics. In other words, if they make up for their shortcomings in other ways, then it might be worth sticking around long enough until those undesirable traits change for the better.
How to Be Patient With Someone in a Relationship
1. Learn to identify the things that you do that are impatient
To be patient with someone, you first must know when and how you become impatient. Think about the things that make you feel impatient. What are some of your triggers for impatience? Write down a list of these triggers, and then think about what it does to your body when they happen.
What do people do when they’re impatient? List all the ways that those around you respond when there’s a delay or something isn’t happening fast enough for them. Talking louder than necessary; commenting on how long something should take; complaining about other people who aren’t keeping up with their expectations; e.t.c.
2. Work on your own issues
While it’s important to try and be patient with your partner, you must also work on yourself. You can’t change how another person thinks or acts, but you can change how you react to their behavior. If someone isn’t being patient with you, for example, then ask yourself what could be causing them to act this way; is something going on in their life causing them to lash out at others?
- Do they just need some alone time?
- Are they having trouble sleeping and taking it out on everyone else?
- Are they frustrated because they’re not getting enough attention from someone else?
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3. Be intentional about learning patience in your relationships
Being patient with someone you love is a skill. It can be learned, practiced and taught.
For you to become more patient with your partner, you must first commit yourself to the process of learning it. Make a conscious effort to develop patience in your life by asking yourself questions like “How can I be more patient?” or “How can I improve my patience over time?” These questions will help guide your efforts towards becoming more patient with others through time and effort spent learning the skill.
4. Think about what matters most
The next step is to consider what matters most to you in your relationship. Is it the quality of communication? The amount of time you spend together? The way the other person treats you?
Now, think about what matters most to your partner. Is it that they feel free to express themselves without judgment? That you always make them laugh out loud? Or is it something else entirely?
Now that we’ve looked at these two aspects let’s take a moment and consider how each person views their relationship with its own set of values. What being patient means for one person may not be what being patient means for another. It all depends on what matters most and where each individual stands on those issues at any given time.
5. Stop trying to change them
Trying and changing your partner is easy when you’re in a relationship. We all want the best for our partners, but sometimes we can get so caught up in wanting them to be different that we forget about why we love them in the first place.
Don’t try to change them – instead, work on yourself. Let go of trying to make your partner more like you or more like someone else; instead, focus on what is working well between you two.
If something isn’t working well between you two, then it may be time to let go and move on before things get worse. It’s okay if they don’t fit into your ideal vision of how they should be; they were never meant for that role anyway.
6. Take yourself out of the equation
It’s easy to get caught up in your thoughts and feelings when trying to be patient with someone in a relationship, but it’s important to take yourself out of the situation and focus on them. This is easier said than done, especially if you’re feeling embarrassed or hurt by what they did or didn’t do. You may want to talk about how this makes you feel but remember that it isn’t about you.
It can also help if you remember that being patient doesn’t mean ignoring your needs. It means finding ways around them until everyone gets what they really need out of their situations.
7. Find ways to make them happy
If you want to be patient with someone, you need to find ways for them to make you happy. It may seem like a simple concept, but it can be difficult in practice.
Don’t take it personally if they don’t appreciate what you do for them. Don’t be afraid to ask for help in return. And finally, don’t expect them to read your mind and do the same things that make you happy; that’s just not going to happen.
8. Be honest with yourself about your relationship and how you feel about it
Once you’re honest with yourself about your own relationship, it’s important, to be honest with yourself about how you feel about the relationship. The more honest you can be in this step, the easier it will be for your partner to trust that he or she can always speak their mind without fear of criticism. This is key for relationships because trust and honesty are two major factors that make or break a relationship.
If there’s something bothering your partner and they don’t feel like they can talk to you about it because they’re afraid of what might happen, then it might be best that both parties end things as soon as possible before things get worse.
Patience is a virtue, and patience is something that you can learn. It requires effort and self-awareness. Patience is not something you can do by yourself; it also requires someone else to practice with. It takes time to master. And it will take time for your partner to learn to be patient with you.
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