The other day, I was talking to a friend of mine and she said something that struck me as funny. She said, “it seems like every guy friends you have fall in love with you.” At first, I just laughed and thought to myself: That’s not true at all. But then, as we were talking more about it, it made me realize how true that statement really is. She further asked that “why do guy friends always fall for me?
The main reason is because you are attractive to them.
For example One of my guy friends has been in love with me since we met 2 years ago. Even though he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me, he still keeps trying to figure out ways to get close to me so he can spend time with me. In fact, there are probably more examples like this than I can count off the top of my head.
In case your case is similar to mine, here are the top reasons why your guy friends always fall for you.
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Top Reasons Your Guy Friends Fall For You
- You are friendly to them
- You give them a listening ear
- You care so much for them
- You’re a laid back, outgoing, fun loving type of person
1. You are friendly to them
This is the major reason why guys fall for you and start developing feelings for you. You are a friendly person who makes others feel comfortable around you and your friends. Your warm personality allows people to drop their guard in front of you and be themselves without any worries.
2. You give them a listening ear
This is also another one of the main reasons guys like you. You’re a good listener, and you have a way of making them feel better about their problems. You don’t judge them for their mistakes or problems. You simply listen, and when they’re done talking you give them advice based on what you’ve heard in the conversation.
3. You care so much for them
When a guy friend falls for you, he often does so because he sees the real you. You’re someone who genuinely cares about him. You get excited when he has good things happen to him, and you’re always supportive of his dreams and goals. Even if they don’t involve you specifically (or anyone). This makes it easy to feel close on levels that are more than just superficial attraction.
4. You’re a laid back, outgoing, fun loving type of person
You’re a laid back, outgoing, fun loving type of person. You have a positive outlook on life and you’re easy to talk to. The guys that you meet respect that about you. They know that if they hang out with you and your other friends, they will have a good time because YOU make everything fun. They see how much fun everyone else is having when they’re around you and it makes them want to come along for the ride too.
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How Do You Tell if a Male Friend Fancies You?
The first thing to consider is how much time he spends with you. If he’s always around, he likely likes spending time with you, but that doesn’t mean he fancies you. If he does spend a lot of time with you, though, and seems to enjoy it, that could be a sign. The following are the signs you should look for to know if a male friend fancies you:
1. He starts inviting you to hang out more than usual
If a guy friend is constantly inviting you to hang out, then it’s likely that he wants to spend more time with you. He may have developed feelings for you without realizing it. And now his subconscious is working overtime to try and get the two of you together so that he can be around you as much as possible.
2. He’s making long-term plans with you and paying attention to you
When a guy friend starts making long-term plans with you, it’s a pretty good sign he’s interested in seeing you more often. He wants to spend more time with you, and that could mean one of two things. It is either he wants to see if the two of you will make good romantic partners or if he simply has a genuine interest in being your friend. If this is the case.
Also, if your guy friend spends any amount of time during conversation looking into your eyes (eye contact) while talking to them, it means they’re paying attention to what they’re saying. This doesn’t necessarily mean they like everything about what they’re saying.
Rather it means there might be something special about their words that attracts him enough for him to want to look into your eyes while listening instead of looking at other parts of your face or even elsewhere around the room/area where people might be congregated
3. He’s started touching you more when you’re together
You may notice he’s started touching you more when you’re together. He may touch your hand or arm when he’s talking to you, give you a hug when you see each other, put his arm around your shoulders, put his hand on your lower back when walking with you, or hold your hand.
This is a sign that he’s interested in getting close to you physically as well as emotionally. It means that he wants to spend even more time with you and possibly thinks about doing so outside of the friendship zone.
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4. He looks at you with passion in his eyes
If a guy looks at you with passion in his eyes, he’s probably interested in you. When men look deeply into your eyes and smile at you, it’s because they’re attracted to you and are trying to show it. If he stares at you for longer than normal, or if he has a look on his face that makes it seem like he wants something more than friendship from the relationship, chances are good that the guy is crushing hard on you.
What Do You Do When Your Guy Friends Fall in Love With You?
It’s normal for guy friends to fall in love with you. They are just as likely as women to develop romantic feelings for their best friends, according to one study conducted by psychologist Arthur Aron.
It can be awkward, but it’s not a bad thing. If your guy friend confesses his feelings and you don’t reciprocate, that doesn’t mean he’ll never talk to you again or stop being your friend.
If you do fall in love with him back, great. You’ll need some time together alone just the two of you to figure out how things might work out between the two of you. But if everything goes well enough and there aren’t any red flags along the way (like cheating), then this could be something amazing and special for both of you. If things do not go well you can do the following:
1. Confess to your friend that you do not have similar feelings for him
Confess your friend that you do not have similar feelings for him. Maybe after some months, it’s likely that his interest in you will be waning. If he doesn’t see the two of you together or if the relationship was never going to happen regardless, there’s no reason to spend any more time with him than necessary.
Tell him how much fun it was hanging out with him, but also let him know that this isn’t going anywhere and that they should go their separate ways. It may help if you know someone else who wants to be with him so he won’t feel too alone when he moves on from his feelings for you. If possible, introduce them right away so they can begin their friends together.
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2. Tell him that you cherish your friendship and do not want anything to impact the bond
Don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel. It’s important, to be honest with your friend and let him know that while you like him as a person and want to remain friends, there is no romantic interest on your part. If he doesn’t respond well to this, he may not be ready for a relationship right now. Or may have already moved on mentally from the possibility of pursuing something more with you. Let him realize that the feeling he is nurturing may affect your bond.
3. Set some boundaries
If you want to keep your guy friends as friends, you need to set some boundaries. You might think a little flirting and a few compliments are harmless, but they could be a sign that he wants something more than friendship from you.
Tell him politely but firmly that any further romantic advances will make things awkward between the two of you.
Conclusion
There are many reasons why your guy friends always fall for you, but it’s important to remember that most men who fall for you do so because they like you, not because they want to get in your pants. If you’re worried about a guy being interested in you just because he wants sex, then just ask him. Do not let anyone else tell you what your relationship is about.
