After breaking up with your ex, it is normal to take different measures to forget them and move on. One such measure is blocking your ex from texting or calling you. Doing this will cut off communication from your ex and restrict them from contacting you.
However, even after blocking your ex, they might take the further step to contact you, such as calling you from a private number. This can be frustrating, especially if you don’t know what they want and you are trying to move on. A message I received recently asked, “why is my ex calling me from a private number?”.
Your ex calling you from a private number might be their way of establishing communication with you even after you asked for space to heal and blocked them. It means they couldn’t move on and probably want to convince you to get back together. Also, your ex can call you from a private number even after cutting off communication from them just to spite You and prevent you from getting over them.
Receiving calls from your ex from a private number might interfere with the process of your recovery from the breakup. Their thoughts will always linger around in your mind, prolonging the time you would take to move on.
This does not mean that you would think of them when you are not in contact with one another, but it would be minimal compared to when you are constantly talking to your ex. It would be easier to keep dwelling in the past when you keep in touch.
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Reasons Why Your Ex Is Calling You From A Private Number
Here are some reasons why your ex might be calling you from a private number;
1. Your ex might want to apologize
Your ex might be calling you from a private number because they tried calling you through their number to apologize and probably get back together with you but realized you had blocked them. So, your ex decided to call you using a private number to apologize to you or even be expecting an apology from you.
Also, your ex might be trying to figure out if you are ready to forgive them (if the breakup was your ex’s fault) and get back together with you.
2. Your ex wants to get back together
Your ex calling from a private number might be their way of trying to get back together with you. Also, your ex might be regretful, especially when they are the reason for the breakup. They might be calling you to talk you into getting back together.
Another sign that they want you back, aside from calling you a private number, is when they text you constantly using endearing terms. Also, they might try getting closer to your family.
So, if you notice your ex doing all these while calling you via a private number, they might be interested in getting back into your life. Hence, it is better to retrace your steps if you have no intentions of getting back together with them.
3. Your ex might be jealous
They might get jealous when your ex finds out that you have moved on from the breakup and probably even have a new partner. This is usually the case if they haven’t moved on from the breakup. They might want you to still dwell in the relationship you shared.
Your ex might be calling you from a private number to know if you would be affected by them and might even get furious that you have moved on from them. They might begin to watch your every move regularly to find out what you have been up to recently.
4. To express their anger
If you both broke up recently, your ex will naturally be resentful and might even want to get back at you. So, they might try reaching you over call or text to express their anger and probably seek answers on what went wrong.
So, if your ex calls your number and doesn’t reach you (because you blocked them), they may decide to call you using a private number. Also, your ex might think you might not pick up the call when they use their number, so they’d rather use a private number.
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5. Your ex might be curious
Another reason why your ex is calling you through a private number might be because of curiosity. They might have heard things about you, such as having a new partner or job, from a mutual friend and decided to call you. But decided to use a private number so that you would pick up and listen to what they have to say.
6. To establish a friendship with you
Your ex might decide to call you to establish a connection with you and probably be friends with each other. This is the case when you both shared wonderful moments and were once good friends.
So, if you both have moved on from the breakup, your ex might decide to extend a chance at friendship with you. Then, calling you a private number is to disguise and ensure you pick up the call.
Lastly, your ex might be calling you from a private number to try to convince you to get back together, spite You, or prevent you from moving on from the past relationship since they are also struggling with getting over you. Aside from these, there are several other reasons why your ex might be calling you from a private number which we will discuss below.
7. Loneliness
Your ex might be calling you because they are lonely. Calling you from a private number might be their only way to reach you.
It’s normal for your ex to be lonely after the breakup, especially if they haven’t gotten a new partner. So, your ex might be lonely if they call you from a private number.
8. For closure
One of the most logical reasons why your ex might be calling you from a private number is to get closure. They might still have unanswered questions which you need to answer for them to attain closure and finally move on.
9. They care about you
If you and your ex shared a good relationship, then just because you broke up doesn’t mean they don’t care about you anymore. Yes, they might have stayed away for a while, But that was just to give each other space to heal. Now that they have completely moved on, they might decide to check up on you through a private number because they care about you.
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What To Do When He Calls From A Private Number
Here is what to do when your ex calls you using a private number;
1. Ignore their calls
When your ex keeps calling you from a private number when you need to get over them, then simply ignore it. There is no reason to answer their calls and keep in contact with an ex when you just broke up. Also, receiving their calls will only trigger and remind you of the memories you want to forget.
2. Don’t expect anything
When your ex calls you from a private number after not being in contact for a while, don’t raise your hopes and expectations that they want to get back together with you. Your ex calling you is not good. They will interfere with your process of getting over them. So, avoid having any expectations from them when he /she suddenly calls you from a private number.
3. Ask them why they are calling you
When your ex suddenly contacts you through a private number, and you are wondering why your ex is calling you, simply ask them their reason for calling you. Knowing why they called will relieve you from being tense.
4. Listen to what they have to say
Your ex calling from a private number means they have something important to tell you, so listen to what they say and don’t shut them out. You should listen to your ex with an open mind and not let your emotions cloud your sense of reasoning.
For instance, your ex might be calling you to seek answers to questions that will help them get closure and move on. So, listen to them and close that chapter of your life.
5. Speak casually and act normally
When your ex calls you from a private number, and you have not moved on from the breakup, probably the pain is still there. Avoid throwing tantrums and sounding bitter. Try to act normal and speak casually as though you are speaking to a friend.
6. Don’t be pressurized into making any decision
If your ex calls you from a private number to try to talk you into getting back together and you are not interested. Don’t allow them to use words to manipulate you into accepting them back into your life when it is clear that the breakup is for the best.
Conclusion
Your ex suddenly contacting you from a private number can be dissuading, especially when trying to forget what you shared and move on. So, if your ex contacts you from a private number, ease your mind by asking them what they want. Also, when speaking, be composed, don’t expect anything, and listen to what they want.
