There’s a saying that goes thus, “If you love somebody, set them free.” It’s a popular idea in the dating world because it encourages people to be themselves and take their relationships to the next level. But there are times when setting someone free might be the best way to handle things instead of ignoring the person.
Take this situation for example You’re in an exclusive relationship with someone and they do all these things that make you think they’re really into you but then they completely ignore you or treat other people better than they treat you. Why would anyone do that? If it were up to me, I’d have given them back their freedom by now, but that’s just me. So, let me answer this question “he ignores me but talks to everyone else (what does it mean?)
If a guy is talking to everyone else but ignores you, it can mean one of many things. He is not interested in you and he is looking for all possible means to avoid you. Also, he might not like your personality or there are some things you are doing that disgusts him. If he’s a nice guy, he probably won’t tell you this directly.
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Reasons Why Guys Ignore Their Girlfriend But Talk to Everyone
You should know that every individual has reasons for doing what they are doing. No one can act in isolation. He definitely has a reason for ignoring. If you are bothered about why he ignores you, here are possible reasons he is doing that:
1. You are too needy
You are needy. That’s it. You are asking for a lot from your boyfriend, and you need to ask for less. For instance, anytime you guys are out, you always demand fo excesses. I’m not saying you shouldn’t demand from your boyfriend but let there be a limit towards things you ask. If you keep being too needy, he will make use of all opportunities to ignore you in front of others. He knows once he focuses on others you won’t be able to make unnecessary demands.
2. You might be negative or low-energy
He might be ignoring you and talking to everyone else because you are pulling up a great negative vibe. Maybe he is the kind of person that loves vibing with positivity and high energy. But your kind of personality does not attain that. Well, it is not taboo because we are an attribute of a certain personality. He may decide to let you be and focus on the people of his caliber.
3. You are too shy or you talk too much
Your guy may decide to ignore you in front of others if you are too shy for his liking. He will see you being shy as being timid else. Also, if you talk too much and you don’t give room for him to talk especially when you are with others. To avoid, embarrassment, he might start ignoring you.
4. You might look tense
If you are hunched over and looking down at the ground, or you have a tense look on your face, then it can make your boyfriend feel uncomfortable in your presence. This is because his subconscious tells him a potential threat is present when someone is nervous or anxious around him. However, if you want to relax and open up to him, then try these tips:
- Practice good posture by standing up straight with shoulders back and relaxed arms. This can make him think of openness rather than being defensive.
- Don’t cross your arms across the chest as this makes him see you defensively so keep them down at the sides instead (if possible).
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What to Do if a Guy Ignores You But Talks to Everyone Else
1. Avoid jumping to conclusions
When you feel that someone isn’t interested in you, it’s easy to jump to conclusions about why. It could be because they don’t like your style or don’t think you’re smart enough. But really, there are countless reasons people may choose not to engage with another person, and none of them has anything to do with the other person’s character or worth as a human being.
There is a saying that says “It is not really wise to make too many assumptions when you don’t yet have all the facts to do so.” It’s important not to forget this because if we start making assumptions about what went wrong between us and someone else without asking them first, we risk hurting our relationships even more than before when we started blaming others for things out of their control all along.
2. Reflect on your recent actions
If you have recently done anything to make him uncomfortable, threatened, or feel like he has to compete with you, then this is likely the reason why he ignores you. Because he believed that ignoring you will not make sure occurrence to occur again.
Note: I always give this advice to those in a relationship: Be 100% attentive to know what your partner likes and dislikes. You may think he will correct you when you are wrong but that’s not always the case. He may get tired of correcting you since there is no improvement.
3. Invite him to talk privately
If you’re feeling ignored, the best thing to do is invite him to talk privately. This will allow them to explain why he has been ignoring you and what he thinks about it. You should ask if he is busy or free at the moment, and then if he has time to talk with you privately.
4. Be nice
The one thing that all of your friends have in common is that they’re nice people. So, if you want to be on the receiving end of more attention from your guy, then you’ll have to work on being a really good friend. If you’ve been rude or mean to him, then it’s time for some serious self-reflection. If not, then just keep being yourself and try not to get too demanding or needy when interacting with others.
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5. Explain your feelings
If you have tried the first four points mentioned above then it is time to express how you are feeling about the whole situation. You need to be honest and respectful. Your feelings matter, but so does the other person’s. You should be clear about what you want from him, and make sure that he knows you are not trying to manipulate or passive aggressively annoy them.
6. Hear them out
Also, you need to be willing to listen to his own side of the story. If you want a chance at understanding what’s going on, then do not interrupt him as he tells his story. You also should not argue with them or be defensive about it. Also, you can always ask questions and find out if there is something wrong between you two or not.
7. Be willing to collaborate on a solution if it’s realistic
If you’re at a point in your relationship where you need to work through this together, be willing to collaborate on a solution if it’s realistic. If not, then you may have to let it go for now. Just remember that the most important thing is communication; even if other things are happening in your life that is causing stress, remember that communication is key.
8. Know when to let it go
You may feel like you’ve given him enough space, but if he’s still ignoring you, it doesn’t mean that you should give up. At this point, however, you need to know when to stop pushing for a response.
He might not respond because he’s angry or hurt by what happened between the two of you or maybe he just doesn’t want anything more than friendship with you. Either way, if his lack of communication is making things uncomfortable for everyone involved (and especially for him), then it’s time to cut ties and move on before things get even messier in the future.
Conclusion
This is a tricky situation to be in, but there are a few things you can do to ensure you’re getting the attention you deserve. First off, if your partner ignores you while talking to other people then it’s time for some honesty. Tell him how much it hurts when they don’t notice what’s going on around him or when he ignores what you’re saying. He may not realize how much this affects their relationship with others.
Don’t overthink everything when trying to figure out why this person hasn’t been paying attention though. Sometimes the best thing is for us all just to take a step back and relax about these things because if we let ourselves get too worked up about every little detail then we’ll end up losing sight of what really matters most: loving each other unconditionally despite our differences.
