Some guys like it when their girlfriend keeps them on their toes. It makes life exciting and keeps things from getting boring, which is important for both of them. You might be thinking that this sounds like a recipe for disaster or that you’d never want your boyfriend or husband to get bored with you. But let me explain how you can do this in a way that doesn’t make him look at other women or seem like he’s bored with what he has at home already. Here are the proper ways on how to keep a guy on his toes:
7 Ways on How to Keep a Guy on His Toes
1. Don’t always be available
You should never make a guy feel like you’re too available. Don’t always answer when he calls, don’t reply to his texts immediately, and don’t always be available when he wants to see you. Sometimes, it helps if you can play hard to get him and make him wait for your attention.
You have to remember that guy like the challenge of trying to win over your heart. So by not being too available or easygoing with them; they will try harder than ever before just so they can get what they want from you. Your time in person.
2. Call him out on his BS(Bullshit)
There will be times when you’re not feeling it and you’ll know what’s coming. He’s going to throw a million excuses at you. He won’t want to go out because he has worked, or he’ll make up some BS about having an early meeting. You have to call him out on this, but not in a mean way.
Don’t say anything like, “You’re just making excuses” or “I don’t believe you.” Instead, try something such as: “I really hate it when people make up excuses for things they don’t want to do.” This will let him know that you don’t appreciate being lied to without also making it sound like he should feel bad about himself.
3. Play hard to get
It’s important to play hard to get, but not too hard to get. If you’re too available, it’ll be easy for him to get bored with you. Make sure that he has to work for your attention and affection. But don’t make it so much work that he gets tired of asking. Don’t give him too much time either, because if he sees you too often or texts/calls too often then he might start feeling like there’s no challenge in pursuing you anymore.
Also, don’t get so caught up in his life that his friends want nothing more than for him and his new girlfriend (you) to break up as soon as possible so they can go back to being besties again. And definitely don’t allow other guys anywhere near your heart. If anything remotely romantic happens between them, think about ending things right then and there before things escalate into something serious.
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4. Use your independence
Guys love to feel like they’re in control, but you don’t have to let them. If he wants to take over your life and tell you what to do all the time, he’s not worth it. Your independence is a huge part of who you are as a person and how you live your life. Don’t be afraid of losing sight of that just because he’s around. Make sure he knows that while he can be around all the time, it doesn’t mean that his presence should control everything else in your life. You don’t want him taking over every aspect of your existence.
5. Don’t obsess over why he’s texting you, or why he’s not texting you back
This is the key to keeping a guy on his toes. You don’t want him to think of you as clingy or desperate, and if you’re always available to talk and text with him, then he won’t miss you when you’re not around. A guy will appreciate that you have your own interests and friends in addition to spending time together. It makes things fun for both of you.
6. Plan surprises
The easiest way to keep a man on his toes is by planning surprises. You can surprise him by creating a romantic date, surprise him with a trip to Paris or Rome, or throw a surprise party for him and his friends. Or taking him away for the weekend or even planning an entire vacation. Surprise him with a birthday party full of gifts and good food. Surprise him with an anniversary party that has been planned months in advance so that he has no idea what’s coming his way.
The possibilities are endless: there are plenty of ways you can plan surprises for your guy without having any idea what else he might be doing behind your back at this very moment.
7. Be affectionate
Being affectionate is one of the best ways to keep a guy on his toes. It’s an easy way to show him that you care without having to say anything. You can be affectionate by doing the following often:
- Kissing, cuddling, and hugging are all great ways to show affection.
- Romantically touching him can be as simple as holding hands or giving him a back rub.
- Giving him a massage and massaging his feet will make any man feel appreciated and loved.
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How Do I Keep Him on His Toes Over Text?
This is specifically for those that are in a long distance relationship (others can also implement this). You can keep your boyfriend on toe over text and here is how to go about it:
1. Be funny
You’ve heard it time and time again: humor is essential to a successful relationship. But what does that mean exactly? Humor is a powerful tool that can help you keep your man on his toes. It will keep him interested by showing him the lighter side of life, which makes you more approachable and fun to be around.
If he doesn’t know how funny you are (or think), then why would he stick around? And always remember, humor has nothing to do with being mean or sarcastic; rather it means using wit and charm to say things in nonchalant ways so they don’t seem like put-downs but rather clever observations on life itself.
2. Use teasing and banter
Teasing and banter are great ways of getting to know someone better, and they’re also good ways of making each other laugh. It’s important not to be mean-spirited when teasing someone. You should be able to tell when the person you’re joking with has had enough. But if done well, teasing will keep things fun for both people involved in the conversation.
Fair warning: teasing and banter can sometimes go too far. If you find yourself in this situation, apologize and back off. If you don’t know how to make up for your mistake, ask a friend or colleague for help.
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3. Keep him guessing
If you want to keep a guy on his toes, make sure he doesn’t know what you’re thinking. Men are naturally more direct than women, so if he wants to know what’s going on in your head, it won’t take him long to ask. If he thinks that everything is good between the two of you and then suddenly starts acting differently when he sees you around town or online, he may begin questioning himself and asking why this has happened.
If a woman wants to keep a man on his toes she needs only pretend as though nothing has changed while at the same time giving him subtle hints that things have indeed changed. The goal here is not necessarily for him to think that something bad has happened but rather that something good could happen at any moment if only he knew how best to proceed with caution (and potentially fear).
4. Send a flirty emoji
Sending a flirty emoji is one of the most effective ways to keep your guy on his toes. The trick here is to make sure you are using the right emoji for the situation. For example, if it’s late at night and you’re feeling bored but want him to know you’re thinking about him, send an eggplant or peach so he knows what’s on your mind. A little flirty text message will work wonders when it comes to keeping things exciting in your relationship.
Once again, be sure not to overuse emojis for them not to become boring or annoying; this also goes for any other aspect of communication with a guy (i.e., don’t send too many texts per day).
Final Thought
When it comes to keeping a guy on his toes, there are several things you can do. The trick lies in knowing what he likes and dislikes and doing exactly that. If you want him to stay interested, keep him guessing about how you feel about him by giving mixed signals or making yourself unavailable for a while before finally giving in to his charms.
Also, take care of yourself so that he can admire your beauty without distraction from other things going on around him. Guys love being able to look at their women with pride and pleasure. So make sure that when he sees you, he sees only the best parts of who you are – from face down through every inch of skin.
