A very dear friend came running to me some time ago about how she wanted to be with a guy, and he turned her down, saying he wanted to be friends first. This single experience shook my friend up a little because she doesn’t understand what it means when a guy says he wants to be friends first.
It could mean many things if a guy tells you he wants to be friends before dating. First, he might be trying to get to know you first before getting emotionally involved. He might also not be interested in a relationship at all.
Again, there’s a lot of grey area here, and you will have to deduce your meaning. This article will give you some direction.
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What Does Being Friends First Mean?
Being friends first means you need to get to know your date before becoming intimate with them. It’s a very slow, deliberate way of dating someone.
It’s also important to remember that not every guy you date needs to be a potential boyfriend or husband. You’re allowed to have fun with men and go out on dates just for the sake of going out and having fun with someone. But if you’re looking for something serious, and if you want to know whether or not this man is right for you, then being friends first is an important part of making sure that he’s worth your time and energy.
Being friends first means that the relationship starts off slowly. It may take several dates before anything happens between two people who are taking things slowly because they’re getting to know each other.
It may also mean that both parties agree to know each other well enough and feel comfortable enough that they’re willing to take their relationship further than just being friendly acquaintances. The pressure isn’t there as much as it would be if you both get intimate too soon.
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Is it Good to Be Friends First?
Yes, it is. The truth is that being friends first is crucial for a successful relationship. It takes time to build trust and an emotional connection with someone. And when you get intimate too soon, you can lose all those feelings of closeness and intimacy.
The other reason that being friends first is good for your relationship is that it allows you to get to know each other differently than if you’d just started dating and then became intimate right away. You’ll have the opportunity to see how your partner treats others, who they are when they’re not in front of you, and whether or not their personality matches who they portray online or on social media.
I’m not saying that people shouldn’t have sex before marriage or even date for years before getting married. Still, it’s important to know why being friends first is so important before diving into an intimate relationship with someone new.
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Reasons Why You Should Be Friends Before Dating
1. It makes the first date less awkward
You know how to act around each other. You no longer have to worry about what to say or do on a date, because you already know. Plus, you don’t have to worry about all the awkward pauses in conversation because you’ve already had those moments before.
You don’t have to worry about paying for the date. No more awkwardness over who should pay. Instead of trying not to be too obvious when looking at your phone while your date makes small talk with the waiter, why not just look at each other and smile genuinely?
You don’t have to worry about not having fun if there isn’t an attraction between the two of you. You already know that there is an attraction between the two of you.
2. The friendship is already there
Whether you feel like it or not, your friendship will be there when you need it. When you finally decide that you’re ready to start dating someone, you might find that the conversations are boring or awkward because there’s no foundation for them. In this case, being friends first would have helped build up a lot of trust and open communication between the two people involved in a relationship.
A friendship provides both parties with an opportunity to learn each other’s strengths and weaknesses and give each other feedback about their behavior so that when they start dating, there will already be an established foundation for them to build on by discussing where things went wrong in previous relationships or why they made certain decisions during those times.
3. You’ve been able to get to know each other’s families and friends
When you spend time with each other’s families and friends, you get to see what they’re like together. These people are your first impressions of each other, so it’s important that they get along well. You can also see how the two of you interact in different settings. If one person is more comfortable with family than another, or if one person prefers nightlife to quiet nights at home. These things will become more apparent when you’re not just dating someone but hanging out with their whole crew.
4. You understand what the other person is going through
Being friends with someone before you date them means that you have a better understanding of who they are as a person, and therefore, you can help each other in rough times. When one of your friends has an issue, they’re going to turn to you for support because they know that you have their back no matter what. This is because you already have an established friendship based on trust and respect, which makes it easier for both parties to open up about something personal that might be bothering them.
Because of this trust factor, this kind of relationship makes dating easier when it does happen. You don’t feel like there is anything between the two people besides friendship; so if one decides not to pursue things further romantically after all those years together, there’s no awkwardness or hurt feelings involved since neither party felt any differently from how they did before their potential romance began.
5. There’s nothing fake between you two
You and your friend have been able to be yourself around each other, which is a great way to start a relationship. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not or worry about what you’re wearing or saying when you are with your friend.
6. You don’t have to impress each other with fancy dates
You can be yourself when you don’t have to impress each other. Plus, you’ll actually be able to enjoy the fun of the date instead of trying to think up new things to do that would impress them.
You will also get closer and learn more about each other because there’s no pressure on either side. If a couple is dating for the first time, they often try too hard or play games with each other so they come across as interesting or funny in front of their dates. When friends go out together on a double date, there’s less pressure on both sides which allows them both space for conversation and getting closer with one another.
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7. You can tell if you’re compatible as partners or not
You can also tell if you want to be in a relationship with this person. If the answer is no, then that’s great. You don’t have to date them just because they asked and it’d be nice if everyone could learn from their mistakes and move on with their lives. But if the answer is yes, then that’s fantastic. Now all you need to do is ask them out on a date and see where things go from there.
It’s very important in life to find people who make us happy, and we make them happy too. That way, we get along well, making our lives even more enjoyable than ever before.
8. There are no expectations for the relationship yet
When you are friends first, there are no expectations for the relationship. You can just be yourself without worrying about being disappointed. You and your friend have time to get to know each other and learn more about who you are and what you like and don’t like. This makes it easier for both of you to decide if dating is something that would work out for the long term or not.
Final Thoughts
I’ve come to understand that, in the digital age, we tend to be more perceptive to the meaning behind a person’s statements than to the statements themselves. This makes it easier for us to project our own interpretations upon them. So when this innocent statement is made, arm yourself with the knowledge to make an informed interpretation.
I hope this article has helped you understand what a guy says he wants to be friends first. And if you seek a non-platonic relationship with a guy, don’t let this statement stop you from pursuing it.
