Having healthy and deep conversations is one of the core factors that keeps a relationship rolling. It is a great way to express your feelings and emotions and know more about someone’s likes, dislikes, and needs.
Although conversations are great in a relationship, we occasionally run out of things to talk about with each other. This is normal. However, it can be worrisome when he always seems to end the conversation first, even when he doesn’t initiate it.
As a relationship expert, I have received emails seeking relationship questions, advice, and tips. Going through my emails recently, I stumbled across an email from a lady with the question, “Why does he always end the conversation first?”
As I mentioned, although it’s normal to run out of conversation ideas when speaking or texting your partner, if he always ends the conversation first, even when there are more things to say, something might be going on. A major reason why he might always seem in a hurry to end the conversations is when he is busy.
For instance, when his work or job requires him to input more mental and physical focus and abstain from any distractions such as conversations, he would always be in a hurry to end a call or end a conversation when texting.
Although, being busy might not be the right reason for him not to make time for the person he loves. However, you should note that when he is busy, he would want to quickly end the conversation and get back to what he was doing or working on. Meanwhile, aside from being busy, there are several reasons why he always ends the conversation first. I will discuss them going further in this article. Read on.
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Reasons Why He Always Ends The Conversation First
The most logical reason why he might always end the conversation first is if he is busy. There are other reasons why he ends the conversation first. Here are some;
1. There’s a decline in his interest in you
He might end up always ending the conversation first when he doesn’t see you as a priority anymore, and there’s a decline in how he feels towards you.
This means that he wouldn’t want to have a serious conversation with you if he doesn’t see you as someone important to him. He doesn’t value you and wouldn’t want to have any prolonged conversation with you. He might even see it as a waste of time, so he would rather always end the conversation.
2. He might not know what to talk about
Another reason why he would always want to end the conversation is because he doesn’t know what to talk about. This usually happens when the relationship is still new, and he is still probably nervous around you. He might need some time to get comfortable around you.
This can also be because you and he don’t share common interests; thus, you will always run out of ideas to prolong the conversation.
For instance, if you are interested in lifestyles and nature, while he is fascinated by sports, then conversation gaps cannot be avoided. But this can be fixed if both of you find common interests you can discuss. So, if he always ends the conversation first, then he might not know what to talk about.
3. He might want some space
Your partner might always be in a hurry to end the conversation because he wants some space and expects you to figure that out yourself.
He might not want to tell you to give him space directly. This can be an awkward conversation, you might misunderstand him, and he doesn’t want to hurt you. He might decide to give you the silent treatment by refusing to have long or deep conversations with you. He would always end the conversation first.
4. He might be overwhelmed by the relationship
Another reason your boyfriend might be avoiding longer conversations and always seems to end the conversations with you might be that he is feeling overwhelmed by the relationship, especially if you are putting effort into sustaining the relationship. He feels pressured and is not ready to commit fully to the relationship.
Feeling overwhelmed and confused about a relationship is normal. Couples might sometimes feel like they don’t want to be around each other anymore and want to do other things. In this situation, the best thing to do is give each other space to decide what to do. The space will allow him to clear all his emotions and decide if he is interested in conversing with you.
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5. He is afraid you might misunderstand him
I am sure in a certain situation, you have had a conversation with someone (either a friend or even a colleague), and the person entirely misunderstood or misinterpreted the context of what you meant.
If the person feels you mean something different from your intended conversation, they might feel hurt or insulted. Well, your partner or crush might be avoiding prolonged conversations with you because he doesn’t want to be misinterpreted or misunderstood.
6. He might no longer be interested in the relationship
This is another possible reason why he is always in a hurry to end the conversation first. He might no longer be interested in being in a relationship. This is because people are known always to make time for anyone they love, no matter how small.
Suppose he can continuously spend days without having long, deep conversations or even talking to you without giving you any convenient reason. In that case, he might be no longer in the relationship. If he loves and values the relationship, he would always try to make time to reach out to you.
If this is what your partner does, he might not be interested in the relationship anymore. You can decide to remain in the relationship without knowing where it is going or to have a conversation with him and get his stance on the relationship.
Meanwhile, above are the top reasons why he might always end the conversation. If you are worried about why your partner always ends your conversation, you should ask him for his reasons. Whatever his reasons might be, talk it out and reach a mutual agreement for the betterment of your relationship.
How To Make Him More Interested In Having Longer conversations With You
Having looked at the reasons why he always ends the conversation, here is how to make him interested in having prolonged conversations;
1. Talk about common interests
Talk about common interests to get a man engrossed in having conversations with you. You can talk about your interests and ask him about his, that way you would learn about each other’s common interests. You can talk about your favorite sports, movies, or even books.
Also, you can check out his social media platforms to get a preview of his interests. That way, you will know what to talk about with him. Bring up conversations that interest him, and inquire further about them (he will surely enjoy talking about something he loves). This will help strengthen your bond and build a good communication path.
2. Ask him questions
Another way to keep the conversations going is by asking him questions. Like I said earlier, he will be willing to talk about the things he loves, so enquiring about his hobbies will keep him engrossed in the conversation. You can inquire about his interests, hobbies, profession, or anything else you know will keep him interested.
3. Give him space
This might seem off, but giving him space can make him miss you and thus be interested in having deep conversations with you. It’s important to know when to call him and when to stop ringing his phone. You don’t want to seem like a distraction or disturbance. Also, you don’t want to seem desperate for his attention.
Long conversations with your partner do not guarantee a healthy and strong conversation. You just have to ensure to be open to one another and not try to force things on him. If he doesn’t want to have a long conversation, don’t try to prolong it.
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4. Don’t sound pessimistic during conversations
Do not sound pessimistic when having a conversation with him. Constantly complaining can make him lose interest in having conversations with you because he might think you would only keep complaining about everything you despise. When having a conversation, ensure to keep all you say lightheartedly.
5. Get busy
Another method to keep him interested in conversing with you is by getting busy and not seeming idle. When you are constantly texting or calling him, he might think you are always available and thus take that for granted.
So, to make him interested in having conversations with you, get busy and allow him to miss you. If he is sincerely interested in you, he will reach out to have deep, long conversations.
Conclusion
Conversation gaps usually ruin relationships, no matter how perfect they might be. So, if you notice your partner is drifting away during conversations, ask him what is wrong and fix it. Also, if you are just getting to know each other, do not force things and allow them to move at their pace.
